Set Healthy Boundaries Around Holiday Expectations

Each of us grew up with certain expectations of Christmas. When two (or more) families are joined by marriage, these expectations may clash with our idea of how it should be celebrated. How can we set healthy boundaries around holiday expectations, yet keep our marriage intact? Healthy Boundaries are Needed In a recent conversation with … Continue reading Set Healthy Boundaries Around Holiday Expectations

8 Helpful Ways to Love the Grieving

The holidays are not jolly or merry for those who’ve lost a loved one, a job, a marriage, or a dream this year. Holiday salutations like Happy, Jolly or Merry are only painful reminders of lost joy.  How can you show love to someone who is grieving ? Our youngest son, Ryan, age 6, died December 10, 1985. … Continue reading 8 Helpful Ways to Love the Grieving

More Beautiful for Being Broken

A Japanese art form, known as Kintgsukuroi, or kintsugi,  repairs cracked or broken pottery with gold or silver lacquer. The flaw is seen as a unique piece of the object’s history, which adds to its beauty. In a way, we are all kintsugi. The Art of Scars  Just being alive guarantees we have at least one scar from … Continue reading More Beautiful for Being Broken

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