4 steps to sow life into your marriage

Sow Seeds of Life into Your Marriage

You reap what you sow, more than you sow, and later than you sow.

In last week’s blog, I shared how my life reaped a not-so-favorable harvest due to poor seed choices for the first 15 years of marriage. Once I understood the principle and how it worked, I learned to dig up the bad seed I’d sown and began making better choices.

You Reap What You Sow

Almost 30 years of sowing better choices of good seed are now reaping some bountiful rewards.

Look at the harvest you are reaping to understand the effect of the seed you’ve sown.

Dennis and I see that we’ve had more years of planting good seed into our marriage than bad. The harvest of a thriving, long-lasting marriage is the result of digging up death seeds and replacing them with life-producing seeds.

When we catch ourselves sowing death—critical comments, sarcasm, negativity, or selfishness—we try to quickly apply God’s weed killer of repentance.  

 Steps to Reap the Godly Harvest You Want

  1. Choose seed from God’s seed bag (life seeds)

As iron sharpens iron, Dennis and I  understand God uses marriage to produce the fruit of the spirit in us. As we sow life seeds, we are blessed by reaping fruit just as the psalmist wrote:

Growing in grace, they will still thrive and bear fruit and prosper in old age; They will flourish and be vital and fresh [rich in trust and love and contentment]

Aside from the term old, this pretty much describes our long marriage. Sowing life seeds into the other has reaped the harvest of a marriage that is rich in trust and love and contentment. (And you can read between the sheets.) *wink*

  1. Ask God to give you seed for sowing.

As a life-long student of the Bible, I’ve prayed many scriptures over Dennis, myself and our children. God has been faithful to give me seeds to sow from His Word.

Long before the movie War Room premiered, I understood the promise of  they who sow in tears. Over and over, I’ve reaped the harvest of answered prayer.

  1. Prepare the soil of your heart

Experience has taught me that I must prepare the soil of my own heart before I can expect to see a harvest. It is so much easier to beg God to “Change my husband, O God,” when it is obvious I am the one who needs a’changin’.

So that’s what Growing in grace is about.

  1. Pluck the weeds as soon as they appear.

Life happens. When death seeds escape our thoughts or lips, we’ve learned to quickly pluck the weeds before they overtake the whole garden.

Dennis and I try to repent immediately when we catch ourselves planting the wrong seeds. To complete the weed killing, it is important to look our spouse in the eye and say the seven words every marriage needs.

I was wrong. Will you forgive me?

Later than you sow

As I look back over my life’s “garden,” I see that consistency and perseverance of applying these steps is producing an abundant harvest.

Unlike the crops of the field, there is no regular timetable for the harvest of life. Some harvests we reap quickly. Others take a long time.

Be assured, their season will come.

 As a wife and mother, I want you to understand how important this point is.

~ Keep sowing good seeds into your marriage and children.
~ Persevere season after season.
~ Yes, you WILL reap a harvest of blessing.

 You can believe the promise God give us–

May we never tire of doing what is good and right before our Lord because in His season we shall bring in a great harvest if we can just persist.

What seeds are you digging up today?

You are loved,


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