Does your husband need help knowing what you want for Christmas? Originally posted 12/3/15..
My gift giving list is almost checked off. Early on in our marriage Dennis and I made sure Santa was notified and paid in full well before December 24.
We prefer peace and joy over busy and hectic.
When it comes to receiving gifts from my husband, I’ve finally learned how to receive what I need or want. And Dennis sighs in relief, because the dilemma of gift buying is solved.
Unless you married one who picks up on every single hint you drop *and we don’t want to know if you are one of those*, then I want to offer some ideas we’ve used.
Your Spouse is not a Mind-Reader
Trust me. I know all about this.
Dropping hints. Putting emphasis on certain wishes. Batting your eyelashes when you talk about it.
Yes, I’ve gotten a few, unexpected, delightful surprise gifts from my husband. But generally, he appreciates that I tell or show him EXACTLY what I’d like.
Be Santa’s Administrative Assistant
- If you see a gift you’d like in the newspaper sales circulars, cut out the picture of it. Follow these steps:
- Paste it to a sheet of paper.
- Write the size and color (if needed ).
- Write the name of the store that has the gift. (I’m OK to even program the GPS to the store.)
- Add several gifts from different sales ads, if you wish
- If there is a gift budget, prioritize the gifts in order, with the chance you’ll get what you really wanted.
2. High tech method: Browse online, then text the link of item with all the above information. (You may ask if you can remind him to add it to a folder in his “Notes” app.)
Let your fingers do the walking. Use the “Wish Lists” on online retail websites. Place the items you’d really like there. Then let your husband know what you’ve done or send him the link. If necessary, write out the directions to the website and what to click on once he’s there.
- When our son was a newly wed, his gift shopping creativity sparkled.
- He asked our daughter-in-love to go pick out what she wanted from different stores and have the sales person hold it behind the counter.
- Information about the store and– *this is important* –department where gifts were held was given to him when his wife finished.
- He then played Santa. Although she thought he’d purchase just one gift, he ended up buying all that she’d put on hold. Because he was NEWLY wed.
- One Cyber Monday, Dennis asked me to go to my favorite online site and add the items I wanted into the shopping cart. He then complete the “Checkout” process.
Easy peasy. Happy wife, happy life.
- Ask for gift cards to particular stores. Or cash (my preferred gift choice). You get more for your buck because of all the after-Christmas and end-of-year sales.
- Sheila at To Love, Honor and Vacuum has gift and stocking stuffer ideas for wives. You may text or email him this link.
If Buying Gifts is Financially Challenging
- Money or no money, this is a great one to try. College student newlyweds had no extra funds to buy gifts. What they decided to do was to cut out a picture of what they’d buy each other if money –no matter the cost—was available. They had so much fun doing this, they still consider this as being one of their best Christmases ever.
- Dennis’ favorite gifts I’ve given him are those I’ve made myself. Click here for some of these ideas.
If you have ideas that make gift-giving easier for your spouse, will you please leave a comment? I’ll use your idea in a future post.
Merry Christmas y’all!
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