Category Archives: Conflict Resolution

How to Resolve “Sour Hour” Conflict|5 Steps

Evenings are the worst time to get into an argument with your spouse.  We’ve seen this pattern with most of the couples we coach, and have termed this time period the Sour Hour.  What is the best way to resolve conflict in the evening? What does the “Sour Hour” look like? It’s at the end of … Continue reading How to Resolve “Sour Hour” Conflict|5 Steps

Choose Your Battles|7 Steps to Having a Win-Win Marriage

“Choose your battles” is usually associated with parental advice. But it also applies to marriage. How do you know which battle to fight and which to drop? Real-Life Example of a Battle Choice Married now many, many years, my husband and I know which battles to pursue and which ones to drop. When you’ve been … Continue reading Choose Your Battles|7 Steps to Having a Win-Win Marriage

Seven Words Your Marriage Needs to Learn

The catchphrase from a 1970 movie deceived many people.  Love means never having to say you’re sorry may sound romantic, but it is a lie. A big lie. The truth? Love means you must say “I’m sorry.”  To keep a marriage healthy, there  is a  seven word question every married couple needs to learn. Say … Continue reading Seven Words Your Marriage Needs to Learn

Stop the Donkey Talk|Stop Assuming

Your small child is frustrated and upset. From experience, you see an emotional explosion brewing. To offset the damage, you urge her by saying, use your words, Honey.  This works in marriage, too. Stop the Donkey Talk For most of our marriage, Dennis and I have been guilty of assuming the other knows how we … Continue reading Stop the Donkey Talk|Stop Assuming

Unconditional Love Looks Like…

Demonstrating unconditional love to our children is a natural of overflow of the love we have for them. They can irritate, frustrate and even manipulate us, but nothing can make us love them less. How, then, can we show this same no strings attached love to our spouse? Some may disagree, but the difference to … Continue reading Unconditional Love Looks Like…