3 factors of Sowing and Reaping in Marriage

Today is the Father of Your Tomorrow

Every action—good or bad– has a consequence.  In biblical terms, one pastor tells us

Today is the father of tomorrow.

Isaac Newton  thought he  discovered this law at work. Ancient Indian religion introduced the concept as karma.  But the law of  sowing and reaping originated with God.

Patricia King  defines it as God’s Law of Attraction:

I attract into my life whatever I give my thoughts, feelings, attention, energy, focus and belief to –whether positive or negative.

The Bible provides example after example of God’s encouragement to His people to obey His commands so they will reap His blessings. Like any wise parent, He is also fair enough to warn us of what we can expect if we do not. (Leviticus 26, Deuteronomy 11)

Life has taught me that it doesn’t matter if you believe the principle of sowing and reaping or not. It is as natural a law as the law of gravity.

How has your TODAY been affected by the father of tomorrow?

Dennis and I  learned by year 15 we were sowing too many bad seeds into our marriage.

It was around that time that we participated in a 13-week marriage study group (Married for Life)   that changed the direction of not just our marriage, but our lives.

I distinctly remember Lesson 5.


I had sown so many seeds of unforgiveness, resulting in critical attitudes and thoughts, negativity and sarcasm.

My life and marriage was proof the law of sowing and reaping worked. I had ignorantly been sowing death, reaping the harvest, and resowing the same bitter seed.


Every day we face the choice of which seeds we plant.

Do we pull from the good seed bag or the bad seed bag?

I was sowing criticism, yet expected to reap love and encouragement.

Pulling from the bad seed bag, I sowed small seeds of irritation. The harvest I reaped was not the acceptance or cooperation I hoped for. Instead, I reaped contention and strife.

Here is what I’ve learned about the law of sowing and reaping:

Three Factors of Sowing and Reaping

  1. We reap what we sow.

When we  sow disobedience to God, we cannot expect to reap His blessing.

  1. We reap more than we sow.

Sowing is a multiplication process.

…for whatever a man sows, this and this only is what he will reap.

  1. We reap later than we sow.

Harvesting occurs in a different season than the sowing. I didn’t want to harvest in the years to come what I’d sown thus far in my marriage.

How do I stop sowing bad seed?

A homework assignment had us look at the image of  two seed bags–one good, the other bad. We  looked at each aspect of our marriage and family as a gardening area.

As Dennis and I looked at the harvest we were gathering, it was easy to identify which ones we wanted to kill, and the ones we wanted to multiply. Next, we followed these steps:

God’s Weed Killer

Recognize the crops we wanted dead.

Repentance. This is the weed killer that we spread over the unhealthy crops.

Fertilize seed with actions that would produce the fruitful crop we anticipated.

Persevere.  Eventually the undesirable crops are choked out and replaced by the new crop of good seeds that are coming up.

Join me next week as I share results of what I’ve reaped from sowing good seed.

What seeds will you sow TODAY that will father a fruitful harvest TOMORROW?



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