Bless Your Spouse’s Heart

“Bless your heart” is an expression often spoken by Southerners (like me). Adding  “sweet little” or “cotton-picking” as an adjective–depending on the circumstance–adds more to the meaning.

Any Southerner knows we can soften a snide remark by adding “bless his heart.”

Bless her heart, she’s not too smart , but at least she’s pretty.

His elevator doesn’t go all the way to the top, bless his heart.

I confess, I’ve been guilty of saying this term in such a way. (And after this series on words, you better believe I am careful what I say!)

But folks who know me understand my “bless your heart” is sincere and heartfelt. Really!

Past blogs in this series have brought attention to Proverbs 18:21: Words have power.  Power to promote life or death. We’ve already  addressed how we promote death to our marriages and spouses.

How do we promote life to our marriage and spouse?

We bless. With sincere, grateful, heart-felt words.

When Esau recognized that he had lost his father’s blessing forever, he cried out in anguish, “Bless me – me too, my father!” (Genesis 27:34 NIV).  This is the cry of every heart.

And every marriage.

Power of the Spoken Blessing

A spoken blessing is a positive, Biblical statement that invokes the blessing of God in the life of another.

It does good to those who hear it.  When you bless others, you direct God’s goodness to them.

The best known blessing is one used as a benediction:

The Lord bless you and keep you
The Lord make His face shine upon you,
And be gracious to you;
The Lord lift up His countenance upon you,
And give you peace.”’ ~ Numbers 6:24-26.

Blessing Model

I like the idea of using this model to personalize a blessing (described here)  for your spouse.

If your husband faces a situation that makes him anxious,find scriptures on fear to bless him .

May the Lord God bless you and keep you from the torments of fear and anxiety. May He cause His face to shine upon you with His power and love, and may He give you a sound mind. Through His perfect love, may God give you grace to cast out fear. May He lift up His countenance upon you with freedom as you tell Him every detail of your need in earnest, thankful prayer, and may He give you His peace that surpasses all understanding as He keeps your heart and mind safe through Jesus Christ.

Your wife is experiencing grief from the loss of someone dear to her. Search for scriptures on comfort to speak a blessing:

May God, the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the God of all comfort, encourage your heart and protect you from despair. May He cause His face to shine upon you as you rejoice in the midst of troubles and trials, putting your faith in Him and being confident of His lovingkindness toward you. May the Lord lift up His countenance upon you with the riches of His joy and pleasure, and may He give you His peace in your heart and soul.

As you speak these words in prayer or face-to-face, you will invoke the power, grace, and blessing of God upon your spouse, marriage  or child.

Bless Your Spouse

Kate  at encourages us to bless our husband with these 4 phrases :

  • I respect you
  • You are who God says You are
  • I am proud of you
  • You’re my hero

Wives, what words can your husband use to  bless you?

Do you have any to add to my list?

  • I appreciate you
  • You are who God says You are
  • I am proud of you
  • You are beautiful

Fresh Day Ahead has compiled 40 powerful blessings to pray over your marriage. The alphabetical blessings  from scripture are in an attractive printable graphic.

Dear God,

We praise you for your love and faithfulness.  We thank you for huge grace. We thank you that you give us the power to love well.  Thank you for my spouse.  Thank you for the gift of marriage.  Thank you that you’re for us; that you fight for us.  Thank you that you are Redeemer, and you have good in store.  We confess, some days, marriage gets tough, and we blow it – again.  We ask that you would make us more like you. Please fill our marriage and lives with truth and cover it with blessing. ~ Debbie McDaniel

Bless your heart,



Many resources are available on the power of blessings.  Here are a few I like:

The Blessing by  Gary Smalley and John Trent.

James Goll ~ Invoking the Blessing 

Marilyn Hickey~  Imparting the Blessing



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